Lately, I’ve been stuck in a phase I’d like to call the transition phase. I have no logical explanation for this though, anyways, that’s how I feel in these moments of limbo or in-between, however, you’d like to call it.
Currently, I’m in my final year of university, while some of us have graduated while some of us are still dey here. I spoke to a friend of mine that has graduated, well in the process anyways as he is done with all things academics. I am sure we all know that, sometimes life could be such a downer especially when you have people watching your next move or clobbering at you to do something and it’s overwhelming and choking especially when you don’t have a plan or worse the plan you had at the start has failed to materialize or come to play.
The way things are going in this ‘phase’ or ‘stage’ in our lives, especially for those of us in Nigeria where we feel abandoned or let down by the government, you hear different advice spewing from everybody’s mouths as to how to go about your business (lol). Don’t wait on the government, start that business take that course, and do something out of the ordinary – yes they are not bad bits of advice but unless you are willing and ready to do something or change, no amount of advice you hear or motivation would cause you to move.
What then? What then should you do to move out of this slump you’re going through or you are feeling? Honestly, I don’t know as well but if you have some kind of advice for me I’d appreciate it in the comments section.
Based on my going through it as well, what I do is I try to let myself feel everything, the depression, the anxiety, the fears all of it. I basically let it in for a while on days like this and honestly, I tend to watch a lot of cartoons; it helps actually because it’s less serious than my life at the moment.
In this phase, the worst thing to do is compare yourself to someone who you perceive to be better off and living their best life while you’re here just letting your days merge into each other with no life or spark.
Just an endless loop of repetition.
Unfortunately, things get worse before they do get better, and honestly, your journey, timeline, and fate are different from another’s own, and if you’d rather sit in envy and waste the limited time you have on this earth trying to fit into someone else’s shoes when yours might even be just as good or even better.
‘Look, everyone in their teens or almost adult ages are trying to place their mark, hit their target, or get it right. If there’s a time machine to jump to the future and see if we hit that target, if we made it, I am sure some of us would take it to see if this struggle is worth it. But won’t it make it less sweet though?
All I know is that truly you are in control of certain things in your life, yes some things are out of your control like Nigeria’s current situation (God help us), but if you start with the things in your grasp like having that difficult conversation or cutting back on mindless frivolous activities that you are investing yourself and time on, maybe a change is bound to happen, something may shift. But if you want to sit and mope, be my guest, that’s also pretty damn exhausting in my opinion.
Do you ever listen to the success stories of others it doesn’t even have to be someone so far away, it could be someone closer to home, you would know that is just one of those things that happen unless you have a trust fund somewhere then you’re not one of us.
The tools are in your head and your hand, but you need to let your mind at ease, don’t listen to outside noises and neither should you give in to inner demons.
Seriously, what’s stopping you from coming out of this phase with your sanity intact?
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